Tuesday, November 23, 2010

It is Well

The question that seems to come up lately more than any other is, "How are you doing?" My brain stalls out as I try to figure out how to answer that question. I appreciate the question and the concern behind it, but it's a really hard question to answer. In a word: "Well." But, there is a lot behind that answer. "Well" covers a lot of ground. It's the truth...we are doing well; however, I sometimes wonder if anyone believes us. So, I'll give you the long answer that justifies the one word answer.

First, we are still very much in the grieving process. While we don't wander around the house in tears and stare vacantly out the window, we are still struggling with loss of Marc. For us we did a lot of hard grieving during his diagnosis and illness. We dealt with a lot of the raw emotions early on. We find ourselves able to go about our day, but grief sneaks up on us at the most unexpected times. For instance, a song on the radio, driving a familiar stretch of road, using his tools, seeing his picture, will all cause deep pangs of grief. The good news is we are talking about it and not avoiding those situations. My take has been to face these potentially sad experiences and lock horns with them. The sooner we do, the easier the process. Hiding from it solves nothing.

Second, we are very much excited to be among the living. We are finding joy and laughter in our days...right alongside the grief. We look forward to seeing our friends and family. We look forward to the holidays and our family traditions. Yes, it is not without sadness, but we are finding the grace to embrace life again and put one tentative foot in front of the other. We are gaining confidence. I truly do believe that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13). I know I'm not capable of doing any of it on my own -- someone has to hold me up through this! And He is.

Next, we are giving ourselves lots of flexibility while we figure out this new normal for our lives. Bedtime hasn't been so strict. I often find one to four children camped out in my room in the morning. This has never been something we have allowed, but given the circumstances...well...we all feel a little happier a bit closer. We also find ourselves being a bit more spontaneous. We have become so accustomed to being at home that it feels good to just get up and go to the movies, out of town, or out to dinner.

Last we find ourselves still overwhelmed by God's blessings every single day. Whether its his provision of income or providing someone to help me with one of life's details, He proves himself generous every single day. We are not alone and we are not forsaken.

So, in a word...it is well!

Here are a few pictures to catch you up on what the Griffiths have been up to the last few weeks......

Halloween fun with Chad and Cara -- two of the most amazing young
people I have been blessed to call friends!

My little girl is growing up. Sophie turns 5!

A trip to the Bay Area last week. We were able to have a mini reunion with Marc's
cousins and celebrate an early Thanksgiving.

A week ago Sunday we were playing in the ocean. Today it hasn't gotten above freezing here.
Ahhh....good memories :)

The best part of getting away was watching my kids smile and have fun.
I love this picture

Two very beautiful sunbathers...

Another favorite picture. I just love those smiles and memories of their giggles.

Adam not quite sure what to make of playing in the ocean in November!

Picking lemons at our friend Juaneva's house.
You don't get these in Oregon!

Sophia trying to convince Tim that yes, indeed, it is safe to
climb above the first rung of a ladder.

Yes, life has given us lemons and we did (and will) make lemonade!

Visiting Great-Grandma Dorothy's lifelong friend, Juaneva, and her daughter, Shirleen.
What sweet ladies!

A very fun evening out on the town.  Tomasso's...Yum!
Thanks Steve, Jenni, Kelli, and Tim, for a great night out. 
It was great to just laugh.  Love you guys!

Our newest family member: Frosty

Thanks for joining us here!

As always....with love and gratitude....


  1. "Happy Birthday, Sophie!" ~Anderson, Noelle and Micah all greet Sophie with the heartiest of birthday wishes, and Noelle and Micah clapped!

    All three kids said they'd like to come out and visit you guys. So would I!

    We'll try to call you in the next day or two, but feel free to call or email us. So glad to see your blog post this evening. We all enjoyed reading it and seeing the pictures. ~Tonya & the kids

  2. Ah Jane! I have cherished these beautiful pics of you and the kids. Thanks so much for sharing friend! Praying for you still...
    Heather W.

  3. I'm "lovin" your blog Jane. Thank you. And I especially appreciated your definition of "Well" A few years ago I journaled my journey...entitled "Because of Jesus" I"m looking forward to the next chapter of your blog. The pictures were wonderful and spoke volumes of your well being :)
    We continue to keep you in our prayers
    ~Betty and Joe

  4. Love getting a taste of your lemonade! Frosty is so CUTE! Your background makes me think of Alcorn's book...and Marc getting a little peek now and then :-)

  5. I loved looking through your photos. I think of you all often. Now all I can think is, WHAT KIND OF RABBIT IS THAT?? As always, "let's get together soon!" Kira